BEING PLUS SIZE AND PROUD (PART 2)

4. Dress Right: Most plus sized women are yet to fund what works for them, or rather, they are confined to the image of "Looking Normal". You are unique and elegant per your size and your dress sense should say so. Stilettoes do not gel well with robust women. Wedge heels not more than 5 inches does. Skimpy wears are a no-no. Traditional African attire, a smart skirt suit works far better than trouser suits. Flattering gowns and knee-length dresses works with curves. Get them dress as you wish to be addressed. Be confident and know that as your rumble your curves, eyes will go with the rhythm.

5. Temper: Do not get easily provoked. People who cast aspersions at you only do so because you stand out enough to give them a subject of discussion. Be mild-mannered. Be even tempered. Do not show frustration by snide remarks. When you do, you're already losing the war on self-confidence. Be cynical in returning insults but do jot be sarcastic. Make the person taunting you look stupid by a smart witty response.

6. Eat right. Keep fit: Do not go jogging 3 hours a day just because you wish to shed weight. Take walks instead. 30 minutes a day is enough. At least to let your heart work and keep the blood flow. Opt for manual labour when you can. Cook rather than eat out. Dance at home even if it is for 15 minutes. You don't need to be a pro. Music as we already know is the food for the soul. Compliment all these with eating just the right amount and avoid fatty food as much as you can.

7. Hygiene: most plus sized women are riled for the perceived weakness in the area if hygiene. (I find that to be a very hasty generalisation). Shave when you should. If you have a man, have him help you do a better job. It can actually be AA fun as it is romantic. It also allows you to feel more comfortable in your own skin around him. Bathe regularly. Use nonalcoholic feminine wash. Have baths together with your man. From how he scrubs you, you'll know instinctively if there are areas that need more concentration.

8. Be Nude: Especially with him. Most plus sized women won't undress if it isn't dark or if they don't cover up. No. Stop this. Learn how to strip to eve status almost always. You'll get used to it and vice versa. There's nothing you have that is not I'm a slim woman... You only have more. Most lovers of larger women do so because of this (even lubrication is usually more). We have a saying (jocularly though) that the woman who knows the heart of his man sleeps nude... Body contact of those soft and warm places will definitely bring the sparks.

9. Be Social: mix freely and be warm to people. They will generally forget your size if they relate with you on a scale totally different from your perceived largeness. Your acceptance even by yourself is largely tied to how many people you're able to make genuinely smile.

10. Be Classy: there is no rule to this one. Do not be rude, do not be bossy or arrogant. But then set yourself apart from the crowd. Create an aura of awe around you yet be totally gentle and approachable.

Any man who sees these features in you will have a rethink about slim women. Try it Dearies and see the remarkable difference.

His Eminence
Archcardinal Obinna XII
Archduke of the Commonwealth of Nigeria