BEING PLUS SIZE AND PROUD.

This great article if from one of our Handsome and bold fan. Obinna Onyekachi Mgbeahurike

is a lover of plus size women. Today, he decided to share some of the challenges, gains and other stuff which plus size women face daily

Read and get inspired.

Being slim has been presented by the media as being chic, attractive and beautiful. Being slim has been presented as being healthy. For a large part this may be right at least from a medical standpoint but then we are faced with the ultimate reality: we CANNOT all be slim and not all slim people are healthy.

Many plus sized women have either lost their voice, self-esteem or dangerously damaged (or actively damaging) their lives seeking solutions to fit into this slim craze. Often, to attract their partner of choice. While I agree it is okay to shed weight especially if it is a health challenge, do not make the mistake of assuming that this is a panacea to finding that perfect guy.

Men just like women have their preferences when it comes to their choice of partners. The good news is that not all men like slim women. For one, I don't. They look sick and malnourished to me. If therefore you were meant to be my perfect partner, losing weight may narrow that chance! And I know there are many like me.

Most plus-sized women have fallen into the downward spiral of being side chicks seen only in dark corners with guys who in keeping with the fashion trends, get married to slim women. But then ask yourself, if he is truly satisfied with that slim woman,what dies he want with you? Ponder on this a bit.

A plus sized woman only feels as miserable as she wishes to. This is because she must have failed to realize that she needs a man who sees her as beautiful and not world which sees her as perfect. She does not need to engage in harmful practices just to please the world. She does not need to engage in devious acts or seen as an alternative to a man who is confused for choice. She does not need to alter herself if there is not equal sacrifice from such a man, either in accepting her with her 'imperfect' size or working together to simply keep healthy.

Again, to get your groove back, I shall give you steps to follow which have also worked for me (I am fat man by all standards). For the sake of space, I shall split this into a follow up post.

1. Accept yourself: Your confidence level is tied to self acceptance. You're big and someone out there likes you exactly the way you are. That someone will only see you if you accept yourself gracefully and carry yourself the same way. This acceptance will influence your wardrobe, your style, carriage, mannerism and general disposition. You cannot force yourself into looking slim while being big. Everything will look out of place, including you.

2. Flaunt it: every man in his subconscious seeks that 38EE bustline and the hips that finishes the tape. Use it to your advantage. Do not be worried your tummy isn't flat... It comes with the package. (Imagine how ridiculous a size 6 would look with a 38EE bust line and a 60" waist). Dress to accentuate your curves. Nothing too tight and nothing too lose. Strike a perfect balance that gets the guys staring note than once.

3. Set the tone: Say it... "I am fat, is this okay with you?" Watch his immediate reaction. His eyes especially. Eyes don't lie. Take a walk if you find a hint of the tiniest discomfort. A man who wants you should want "All of you". Not just you face, or raunchy sex when everybody looks away. When the man who wants you shows up, that you're big will be a plus and not a minus. He will not say " but you'll work on it right?" He would be thrilled about your looks and will flaunt you to his friends. He will have pet names for your hips, waist and boobs. He will be thrilled by them and might even be offended if you attempt to lose weight there....

To be continued